A former nurse who looked after dying patients has listed the five most common deathbed regrets in her book, ‘The Top Five Regrets of the Dying-A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing’, Bronnie Ware:
- I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. Many people regretted not honouring their dreams.
- I wish I didn’t work so hard. All of the men regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of existence.
- I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings. The resulting bitterness and resentment often manifested in illness.
- I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. Many regretted not giving friendships the time and effort they deserved.
- I wish that I had let myself be happier. Many did not realise until the end of their lives that happiness is a choice and they had remained stuck in old patterns, mainly through fear of change.
The Telegraph, Jan 2012